Dear DW,

How in the world can we get somebody to put something in writing when they have never done so? You keep saying, “Get it in writing! GET IT IN WRITING! And if it isn’t in writing, DON’T COUNT ON IT!” Well, how can we do that?

Signed, Frantic

Dear Frantic,

There are lots of different ways to get people to do what they ought to do, and there are more excuses to do otherwise. Sometimes there are what seem to be impossible barriers toward getting people to take appropriate action. Maybe they really don’t want changes to happen. Or maybe they are not certain how everyone can be treated fairly and equitably. Or they are simply afraid of losing control.

The process requires positive communication. Maybe writing a “Dear Dad and Mom”, or “Dear Junior”, or “Dear Partner” letter is a way of getting started. You have to keep trying.

You can’t quit trying, because someone doesn’t want to do what is right, just, and fair. Surely the reluctant one respects someone - from somewhere - who knows firsthand of experiences that could be shared which could alter his stubborn stance. Maybe you could bring in outside influences. Maybe involve the reticent person’s best buddy by asking him to carry the ball for you. Or bring in a “pro” from the planning field who could be your best investment to have the ticket to the game.

Don’t give up! At the end – even if you fail - you will never regret trying.

-the dreamweaver

Issue 51, Summer 2004 - Nightmares